Sex for sale

"I met Ian, 29, Scottish. A nube to SM. Turn-off and a complete waste of mytime. I left school at about 7pm? Went back home, showered and gotdressed. In, a nice little cocktail dress and stilettos. I arrived at Emerald Hill at about 9pm ? Late, I was. Desperate, He was. He waited on. Anyway, he was a complete turn-off. He picked the coins up from the bill, and told me he didn't have much equipments to perform a full regime. Ewww...
The waiter at the bar was cute ,though. Somewhere around my age. Ha! An eye candy. I was please he was there, at least there was something for me to rest my eyes on.
Half an hour, into the conversation. I left. Argh. He was an utter disgrace. I prefer clients who are at least over 38. At least, they are more experienced with the scene and generous. "
Excerpt from Teenage Lolita

Today's papers, the SATURDAY section, talked about Girls Gone Wild. Delinquent girls selling illegal ciggies for more cash, fighting till they drew blood, taking and selling drugs are only the tip of the iceberg. Teen girls offering to exchange sex for money/gifts on sites like craigslist Singapore and auctions.... and even their blogs show sexy pictures of themselves... similiar to those in Bobo's previous post. (But Bobo is not saying they are into this sort of thing..)

To Bobo, she thinks all that is old news. Those aren't really surprising because she's heard from her younger cousins how primary school pupils nowadays are slashing their wrists for attention and skipping school to smoke outside and stuff.

But one of the things she noted was how the NEW generation of wild girls come from normal intact nuclear families when they used to come from broken families. Bobo thinks that parents from such families may be become a little complacent thinking that their daughters are fine and only to realise it too late.

One paragraph in the article really struck Bobo....

"When they (the girls) may bore you with minor details about school. But if you shut them off, they grow up thinking that you do not have time for them. Eventually when you start to get interested in what they do, they will say you they have no time to talk to you."

So sad but so true. And it happens so much now.

And Bobo hates to hear how parents like to blame the school these days. ... Don't they see that the right to discipline has been taken out from school authorities years back when they talked about no corporal punishment in schools? What do you expect schools to do for the child? There are counsellors but at the end of the day... the most powerful and most effective person is the parent.

When Bobo read about how some of the girls had to "roll over" (have sex with all the boys in the gang) to get out of the gang, she really cringed. Their lives are destroyed not by this sheer act... but by the mentality it cultivates... something that would stick for a long long time.

It's so hard to be a parent these days. Bobo has always believed that instead of "censoring" things from the child, the parent must explain things along the way. When they see people kissing and hugging on the train, they should explain why they are doing that and what other people looking would think.... and not say things like... Don't look. Not for young children to see.

Or if they hear people spouting vulgarities... they shouldn't cover the child's ears but let the child know that it's awful for people to speak like that and that other people would stay out of these people's way.

Etc etc etc... Bobo knows that in Asian cultures, it's really hard for parents to say all that. Yet with the internet and its "almost instant" ability to dispense "half-baked" information, parents must guide children and teach them how to filter facts and lies for themselves... And Bobo thinks the most important is to give them the attention they need when they are young. So that when they grow older they would come running to you when they need help... and not run to gangs.

It's so hard to be a parent... have to earn money and do so much... Which is why Bobo's really apprehensive about all this marriage and children thing. But she thinks the irony is that the more apprehensive she is means the more mentally prepared (in a way) she is. People who think it's really easy or never really gave it any thought... are not prepared.